divorce/child support

Groundhawger · March 29, 2011, 09:13:18 PM

here is where im at. i did alot of calling around. and know somewhat what i gotta do. my wife right now doesnt exactly know if she wants divorce or not. so im not asking lol. I have been told though if we have 5050 my support shouldnt be real high. if we go threw with this all, we have already talked and wanna agree on everything. thats about where im at so far

bronco429scj · March 29, 2011, 09:28:57 PM

talked this over with my brother in law since his wife decided to move on and he also has two kids 9 and 12 he said if she left with the kids and you are ok with it then you will be treated as if you abandoned them in the eyes of the court during their divorce his x did get a job and they worked out 50/50 custody she carriers their insurance and he pays her $147 a week he also said make any changes in your work life whatever it takes with sitters to work out your custody so the court will see that you are willing to do whatever it takes cause from the sound of it your going to be paying more and working more if you just let her have everything her way but if you can bite the bullet make sure your willing to make the commitment for your kids like i said the $ thing will be a wash either way work more to pay her or work less and spend more time with your kids.

Littlemama · March 29, 2011, 10:10:02 PM

I think it goes by your income. Also, don't ever get behind because you'll be paying interest and fees and your kids will see absolutely none of that.

dsJeep · March 29, 2011, 11:04:00 PM

my wife and her ex have 50/50 with my step-son and he is supposed to pay $130 a month, he usually doesn't though, he hasn't had a pay check in about 8 years...

damn_ford · March 29, 2011, 11:44:24 PM

Quote from: Groundhawger on March 29, 2011, 09:13:18 PM
here is where im at. i did alot of calling around. and know somewhat what i gotta do. my wife right now doesnt exactly know if she wants divorce or not. so im not asking lol. I have been told though if we have 5050 my support shouldnt be real high. if we go threw with this all, we have already talked and wanna agree on everything. thats about where im at so far

it sounds like you guys MIGHT be able to get beyond whatever problems your having. have you tried counseling? the pastor that married my wife and i helped us through a tough situation years ago. if you have a pastor i would consult him/her if not check into marriage counseling. might cost ya but it will be cheaper than a divorce

78man · March 30, 2011, 12:01:40 AM

Quote from: Bigdaddy on March 28, 2011, 09:12:32 PM
my thoughts are with ya Josh

Bowtie972 · March 30, 2011, 12:14:04 AM

Quote from: Littlemama on March 29, 2011, 10:10:02 PM
I think it goes by your income. Also, don't ever get behind because you'll be paying interest and fees and your kids will see absolutely none of that.

This is correct... They take in consideration your income and her income. If she is not working you WILL pay more. Been there and done it..

hillbilly1975 · March 30, 2011, 03:24:02 AM

it also depends on where u live friend of mine lives in ann arbor he pays 900$ a month for 1 kid my other buddy lives in howell and he pays 545$ a month both guyz work at the u of m doing the exact same thing so it depends good luck bro

mudboggTshirts · April 01, 2011, 02:11:37 AM

Prayers are with you Josh..be strong...and make sure she doesn't play games with your feelings..your a great guy..

Groundhawger · April 04, 2011, 06:55:29 PM

yea right now she is playing games with my feelings. Im not sure what exactly is gonna happen. Would it be better if i went and got the divorce papers first?

mudboggTshirts · April 06, 2011, 12:33:40 AM

follow your head and your heart on that one Josh...still prayin for ya bud

Mudboggincrazy's Old Lady · April 11, 2011, 04:07:40 AM

Quote from: Orangecrush on March 28, 2011, 06:58:53 PM
Id get a lawyer and ask him/her these questions. you will need one anyway to point you in the right direction, good luck!

If you were close id give you a really good lawyers name..
and i agree if you can keep it all out of the court and do everything yourselves do it.. i did after my divorce and things go very smooth most of the time. my kid is not on medicaid. but i got a friend her son is on medicaid and after her divorce they tried to keep the court out but they made them because she was getting state aide. your best bet is honestly to get a lawyer if she will be doing state aide.
ims orry to hear this all though. if you were closer i would be able to give you a few names of lawyers that are amazing

Mudboggincrazy's Old Lady · April 11, 2011, 04:09:06 AM

her income is based on minumum wage at 40 hours no matter if she is on state aide or not working., i know this from my support order with my ex. they have to do that do to state regualtions. they base it on a normal person fo rthe custodial parent and the other they go on actual income..

SizeMatters · April 12, 2011, 05:43:49 PM

Call Aleck and Jenkins in Gladwin, they are awesome attorneys. They are fathers rights attorneys and will do everything they can to help you.

Jjay78 · April 12, 2011, 05:51:55 PM

i feel ya man, going through the same thing right now, and the worst part of it is the back and forth and mind games, i totally feel ya man, good luck, hit me up with a pm if ya need to man

Groundhawger · April 14, 2011, 01:22:11 AM

as of right now we are still seperated. she still doesnt wanna really talk or do anything. She hasnt talked about divorce lately but idk whats gonna happen. I got a number to a lawyer that iw as refered to from a few friends, im gonna give him a call and see what he has to say. Im hoping things will turn around and we will get back together but idk. I'll keep ya'll posted.

mudboggTshirts · April 14, 2011, 01:33:27 AM

the fact that she doesn't really want to talk or do anything sounds kinda cold...

Mudboggincrazy's Old Lady · April 19, 2011, 01:43:08 AM

Quote from: mudboggshirts on April 01, 2011, 02:11:37 AM
Prayers are with you Josh..be strong...and make sure she doesn't play games with your feelings..your a great guy..

SteveP612 · April 23, 2011, 10:26:42 PM

Quote from: Bowtie972 on March 30, 2011, 12:14:04 AM
Quote from: Littlemama on March 29, 2011, 10:10:02 PM
I think it goes by your income. Also, don't ever get behind because you'll be paying interest and fees and your kids will see absolutely none of that.

This is correct... They take in consideration your income and her income. If she is not working you WILL pay more. Been there and done it..

If she is getting help from the state there isnt a lot you can do. THe friend of the court said they have to go by what the state says because of the assistance. Just did this last year. Im paying 1150 a month. The FOC said to be happy with that because I couold have been paying 1640. I even contacted a lawyer and they said they cant do anyhting til she gets off aid.

Blazerbabe · May 18, 2011, 01:45:25 AM

Quote from: dsJeep on March 29, 2011, 11:04:00 PM
my wife and her ex have 50/50 with my step-son and he is supposed to pay $130 a month, he usually doesn't though, he hasn't had a pay check in about 8 years...

Actually he is supposed to pay $63 a month... but he got so far behind they tried to make hm pay more. Which made no sense! He can't pay the $63 what on earth made them think he could do double that!
He has no job and now that he has paid it off he gave me two chooses... write a letter to friend of the court to say I want it dropped or he will try to get it switched.