divorce/child support

Groundhawger · March 28, 2011, 05:46:32 PM

hey everyone, it looks like im gonna be getting a divorce. the wife wants one and i dont. i have some questions. I have a fulltime job. she is not working and just lost unemployment. she is going to college though. she is gonna work on getting help from the state. Im wondering if anyone has a clue as to how much my child support will be on 2 kids. also, with her doin state help if that makes things worse for me. also, the kids have medicade insurence right now, but if we go threw with the divorce, do i have to put insurance on them and pay child support? Any help will be appreciated. thanks

Groundhawger · March 28, 2011, 05:47:37 PM

oh and she has her own apartment also

cruisers4wdtoy · March 28, 2011, 06:00:17 PM

Looks like your going to lose about 1/3 of your weeky pay check.Good luck.

Orangecrush · March 28, 2011, 06:58:53 PM

Id get a lawyer and ask him/her these questions. you will need one anyway to point you in the right direction, good luck!

J.C. · March 28, 2011, 07:53:39 PM

Quote from: Orangecrush on March 28, 2011, 06:58:53 PM
Id get a lawyer and ask him/her these questions. you will need one anyway to point you in the right direction, good luck!

x2

bud · March 28, 2011, 09:03:49 PM

good luck with this man michigan is the worst state for a father i had to go to court over my 7 year old a couple years ago because i was getting sued for child support from the state because his mom was getting state aid i had noterized letters and everything saying i had custudy lawer said it would only cost me $1500 for my retainer fee and court would only take one day any ways 1 year later and $10,000 down the shitter i have my son legally and the mom never fought any of it! (i have always had him his mom is a dead beat)

damn_ford · March 28, 2011, 09:08:41 PM

yup, better bring your own lube because the court wont provide it and your gonna need it

damn_ford · March 28, 2011, 09:10:19 PM

Quote from: damn_ford on March 28, 2011, 09:08:41 PM
yup, better bring your own lube because the court wont provide it and your gonna need it

sorry if its too early in your deal to hear humor. my comment may be innapropriate

Bigdaddy · March 28, 2011, 09:12:32 PM

my thoughts are with ya Josh

burl · March 28, 2011, 09:17:43 PM

Yep, call adam or fred ull need it, she can take ur whole check if she wanted to push it that far

rebelryder · March 28, 2011, 09:22:23 PM

unfortrunatly you are not gonna get off easy...im paying 375 a month to my FIANCEE for our son...and we are scheduled to be married in october and we even live together....tellme how thats fair...she even went to the mediator and was like i want the lowest amount for him to pay...ha 375 is rediculous

KORNBREAD · March 28, 2011, 09:27:12 PM

Sorry to hear about this. hope all works out well for you man!

Uncle Steve · March 28, 2011, 10:32:03 PM

Quote from: Bigdaddy on March 28, 2011, 09:12:32 PM
my thoughts are with ya Josh

Quote from: KORNBREAD on March 28, 2011, 09:27:12 PM
Sorry to hear about this. hope all works out well for you man!

'the DON' · March 28, 2011, 10:49:42 PM

Quote from: Uncle Steve on March 28, 2011, 10:32:03 PM
Quote from: Bigdaddy on March 28, 2011, 09:12:32 PM
my thoughts are with ya Josh
Quote from: KORNBREAD on March 28, 2011, 09:27:12 PM
Sorry to hear about this. hope all works out well for you man!

glowworm · March 28, 2011, 11:05:50 PM

GET A LAWYER NOW! that's the best advice. GET A LAWYER NOW! before it gets to the court system. mine is $450 a month for one child.

Bowtie972 · March 29, 2011, 12:16:10 AM

I went thru this too. The best thing for you financially is to get custody, or joint physical custody at least. I have joint legal custody only on my 2 kids and i only get to see em every other weekend. I would change it in a second if i could. I pay over $900 a month on 2. Because of lost OT since 2008, im down $10,000 a year. I have a petition in right now to try to get it lowered. If you have insurance available you will be required to put it on them and pay child support. Your amount you pay will depend on your wages, and her being on state aid will definitely work against you. I wish you the best.

Thumper · March 29, 2011, 02:02:00 AM

you should fight for custody and do your best to retain domicile custody, definately get a lawyer they are much more knowledgable than you might think even though they cost too much. Yes Michigan Friend of the Court is very hard on dad's, dad's pay and pay and then pay some more. I have been dealing with them for 21 yrs. now. I was paying $900 for two and now I am still paying $450 for one that I get to see every other weekend and holidays. It's tough FOC doesn't care what kind of bills you have or how you live as long as they get their support payments, they can take up to 65% of your paycheck and usually do. GOOD LUCK with everything, hope it all works out well

GLS · March 29, 2011, 05:49:34 AM

Here is a calcuator that will give rough idea. http://singleparents.about.com/gi/o.htm?zi=1/XJ&zTi=1&sdn=singleparents&cdn=parenting&tm=49&gps=373_265_833_389&f=00&tt=13&bt=1&bts=1&zu=http%3A//www.alllaw.com/calculators/Childsupport/Michigan/

I went thru this about 5yrs ago. I talked to a friend of mine who is a lawyer and he told me unless I was filing for custody or fighting for stuff in the divorce there wasn't much he could do. The state will take what they feel in necessary. He told me that one thing to do is be first at everything. It will make you look alittle better in the eyes of the court. I got to the court house hours before my case and met with the friend of the court person handling my case. We sat down and discussed finance and insurance for the child. I really felt this helped me in my case, since she was the one that recommended support to the judge. Plus I was nice and did what I was asked before it was due. This is a tough and stressfull battle, don't let it get to you. Remember one thing the child is the most important thing and when I went to court it showed, she was there for the money and that showed also.

Talk to a lawyer and see the options. I did it awhile ago so things might be alittle different.

Goodluck and stay strong.

JSvoboda · March 29, 2011, 11:23:28 AM

I'm going through divorce right now and it sucks. Start calling lawyers in your area and get consultations (usually free) they will tell you what you need to do. Start a log and wright everything down, don't argue around the kids (they are the victums), don't do anything stupid that will effect you (drinking and driving, drugs, domestic violence, dating)

I wish you the best.

ProGrade · March 29, 2011, 04:05:15 PM

it's a TON easier if the two of you can get along and agree on child support and custody terms before you go into it. The state will not tell a dad he can't see his kids contrary to what people say. Minimum is every other weekend...When FOC called my Ex, I went in with her and we had a signed agreement between the two of us. End of story. You will have more to deal with than that because you are married, but if both you and her can be adults about it, the two of you can probably come up with something better than anyone else. Health insurance is based on who has custody, you are responsible, but she can refuse it and put the kids on state aid. if that's the case then the state aid comes out of her share of the child support. call a lawyer, save a bunch of money because no matter what, that will cost you.