ex boyfriends updated 04/08/12

[bubba]

ok first let me say i am the father in this situation ..my daughter has been dating this boy for my sake i will call him dumbass all he wants to do is party and play video games and all they do is fight they have broken up several times but keep getting back together and  they r currently broke up  she is in college studying law and she comes home often (which i fund ) and when she does  comes home she spends all her time with him as JUST FRIENDS ?  AS  A MAN BEING JUST FRIENDS TYPICALY DOESNT WORK WITH YOUR EX .....AM I WRONG   WHAT SHOULD I SAY IF ANYTHING ?  I DONT WANT TO HER TO GO THRU THE SAME CRAP CRYING,DEPRESSION,MOPING AROUND the last break up was hard had law involved and a lot of other drama  o yeah i forgot to mention he drinks everyweekend  ............SHE HAS LET HIM GO AND NOW IS DATING A FELLOW STUDENT WHO ALSO IS STUDYING LAW ENFORCEMENT THIS NEW KID  SEEMS TO HAVE HIS  TOGETHER ... ITS EARLY BUT SO FAR HE SEEMS TO BE A STEP IN RIGHT DIRECTION ONLY TIME WILL TELL

[Jjay78]

that's a tough one man, probably best thing you can do is just remind her of how much of a jerk the guy is and how he'll just destroy her future and all the work she's doing in school....

[ShortTemperd]

From a younger guys perspective  id say just try talking to her like jay said about her future and if she really wants to hang out with a low life that has nothing going for him.. I mean at that age just from hanging out with people like him lowers their standards on making a successful life..I mean one minute she could be hard working at school and a fight could make her want to give up.. the best way to talk to her to would be by trying to make it a funny but serous conversation.. that's about all I got right now goodluck to ya

[jaysgirl]

I would have to agree with jjay78.. Let her know there are better men out there..

[flintpunk]

Bubba,

I am in a similar situation.  I have a 21 y/o daughter who works full time and is studying occupational therapy.  She left her first (and 6 year, long term) boyfriend for a turd who's 38.  These two have been on and off for the last 6 months and she is on an emotional rollercoaster.  This guy is no good for her and I know it.  However, I also realize that if I try to come in between them, I will only drive her closer.  I know this because my parents made that mistake with me and my first marriage wound up going bust because I couldn't see the forest through the trees.  Just stand back and let her figure things out.  She'll make the right decision eventually...especially if she's smart enough to be in law school.  My daughter asks my opinion and I'll give it to her but I tell her that's only my opinion and that she's an adult now and ultimately the decisions rest with her.  Good luck, buddy!

Later,
Al

[flintpunk]

PS.  If she says they're just friends...they're probably more.  Sorry.

[Chevy Racer]

Find another guy you like that she might be interested in and invite him over when she is home and he's not around.  Worth a shot.

[Jjay78]

Find another guy you like that she might be interested in and invite him over when she is home and he's not around.  Worth a shot.

x2 that's not a bad idea

[bubba]

Find another guy you like that she might be interested in and invite him over when she is home and he's not around.  Worth a shot.

x2 that's not a bad idea

i told her he doesnt just want to be friends if they keep texting and going to movies dancin when shes home he thinks he still has a chance and when i said u probably should cut ties 100% and go separates ways she got mad i could have handled it better but i think in her heart she knows im right and hopefully she will get over being mad at me i did it because i love her and dont want to see her hurt again by this piece of sh#23@#

[Jjay78]

good luck my friend, patience is gonna be difficult, but she's gotta see the light hopefully it's just not to late...

[old school truck dude]

Find another guy you like that she might be interested in and invite him over when she is home and he's not around.  Worth a shot.

x2 that's not a bad idea

x3 yup and then you conveniently disappear

[ProGrade]

Whatever you do, support her, I knew my ex was no good for me but didn't want to hear it.

[Hammerlane]

Tuff love sucks.. but its' effective..
your footing the bill for her to come home.. put your foot down and let her know that if she would like you to continue this she cannot see him, if she insists..
let her pay her own way home.  let her know how you really feel about this guy.

if the law has already been called.. she's on both sides of the coin..
can't do well in law school.. when you have a police record.. that's an oxy moron!!
who's footin the bill for college

[BUDGETBOGGER03]

Tuff love sucks.. but its' effective..
your footing the bill for her to come home.. put your foot down and let her know that if she would like you to continue this she cannot see him, if she insists..
let her pay her own way home.  let her know how you really feel about this guy.

if the law has already been called.. she's on both sides of the coin..
can't do well in law school.. when you have a police record.. that's an oxy moron!!
who's footin the bill for college

[bubba]

Tuff love sucks.. but its' effective..
your footing the bill for her to come home.. put your foot down and let her know that if she would like you to continue this she cannot see him, if she insists..
let her pay her own way home.  let her know how you really feel about this guy.

if the law has already been called.. she's on both sides of the coin..
can't do well in law school.. when you have a police record.. that's an oxy moron!!
who's footin the bill for college

im footin bill for her 18,000+      a year for 6 years

[Squirell]

I know a guy that knows a guy that will help resolve the problem...jk...

[AprilDanell]

I am 23 and I went through the whole break up/get back together with an a**hole routine over and over with my ex when I was younger. All you can do really is keep being there for her and reminding her how special she is to you and that some other guy will realize how special she is even if that jerk can't. I know my parents and my friends all saw how horrible my ex was but because I was so "in love" I didn't see it. I finally grew up and got tired of his crap and that's when it finally ended. It might take her finally getting to her breaking point with him before she will kick him to the curb, but eventually she will. Just keep encouraging her to see him for who he really is... She will make the right decision with time.

[Hammerlane]

Tuff love sucks.. but its' effective..
your footing the bill for her to come home.. put your foot down and let her know that if she would like you to continue this she cannot see him, if she insists..
let her pay her own way home.  let her know how you really feel about this guy.

if the law has already been called.. she's on both sides of the coin..
can't do well in law school.. when you have a police record.. that's an oxy moron!!
who's footin the bill for college

im footin bill for her 18,000+      a year for 6 years

Where I come from.. if daddy's footin the bill..
                                 Daddy's makin the rules!

good luck.. tuff choices ahead for both of you...

[bubba]

Tuff love sucks.. but its' effective..
your footing the bill for her to come home.. put your foot down and let her know that if she would like you to continue this she cannot see him, if she insists..
let her pay her own way home.  let her know how you really feel about this guy.

if the law has already been called.. she's on both sides of the coin..
can't do well in law school.. when you have a police record.. that's an oxy moron!!
who's footin the bill for college

thats my biggest fear with this guy she gets into trouble and finishes school and cant get a job  because of law trouble

[Hammerlane]

yea, high potential for that, just 1 call is all it takes depending on the direction taken in that field.